What Happily Ever After Really Means

R.B.-Estelle2This is a tale of true love…not a fairy tale or make believe, but the absolute truth about two people.  Two of the best people I’ve ever known – and how they lived happily ever after.

Like most love stories, this one began with two young people.  It was the spring of 1938 when he, a strong and confident 21 year old, happened to meet a shy beautiful girl of 16 at a cake walk.  She arrived at the event, held at the home of the young man’s parents as a fundraiser for some badly needed baseball equipment, with her sister, future brother-in-law, and an unknown suitor.  As with all the best stories, it was love at first sight when our young couple met and he, not her date, drove her home that day.

A few months later our lovebirds married on the front porch at the home of the local Justice of the Peace – they had lots of love…and not much else.  The newlyweds moved in with his parents and began their life together.

This man, R.B. and his young wife, Estelle, very honestly started with nothing but love, and love was all they needed.  R.B. worked a government job during the day and, with the help of family and friends, built their first home after work and on the weekends.  During the next year they moved into their new house and welcomed their first child, a daughter.  R.B. believed in hard work and providing a safe haven for his family.  Estelle devoted her life to loving R.B. and their baby and making a comfortable home.  He was boisterous and opinionated, she was his biggest supporter.  Together, there was nothing they couldn’t do.R.B.-Estelle-Child

World War II came and separated Estelle and R.B., but their love endured.  Before long, they welcomed a second daughter and picked up life again with each other after the war.  R.B. built a bigger house for his growing family and by the time they moved there in 1956, they’d welcomed two sons.  R.B.-Estelle-ChildrenThis love story continued and, with the passing of time, this loving couple watched their children grow up and start families of their own.  Soon R.B. and Estelle became Papa and Tootsie to eight grandchildren and nine great-grandchildren and their love for each other grew along with their family.  Papa passed along his strength, wisdom, and work ethic.  Larger than life, he was a super hero who never ran out of energy or good stories.  Tootsie fussed and worried and offered comfort and encouragement – her gift was in making each member of the family feel special and cherished.Family-Shirts

By 2016, R.B. and Estelle had been married for 77 years and were 99 and 94 years old.  They were constantly together, but growing tired.  They had unfailingly honored the commitment they’d made to each other back in 1938, by remaining steadfast in their love for each other first and foremost.  The power of this love, so strong and enduring, was a shining example to their family…there was nothing they couldn’t accomplish together.Family-Trip-Louisiana

In their final days, R.B. and Estelle sang to each other and each encouraged the other with words of love and support.  Surrounded by family and friends in the home they’d shared for more than 60 years, they left this earth just 12 hours apart on April 24th and 25th.  He, in his usual manner, led the way and she, as she’d done for three-quarters of a century, followed.  They loved so well, their love for each other spread to all who knew them.  I know because R.B. and Estelle were my mother and father-in-law for 27 years – I will never find a more perfect example of everlasting love.  I will always be proud and honored to have known them and been part of their story and I will do my best to carry on their legacy with my own family.Family-Trip-Arkansas

Of course, the most important part of this story is that from that very first day…

They lived Happily Ever After. R.B.-Estelle

Living a Disney Life – 2015

You guys are the best!  I don’t tell you enough how much I appreciate you.  Another year has come and (nearly) gone – it’s hard to believe it!  2015 was incredibly busy and also full of life’s joys and sorrows.  I know sad times are necessary for us to truly appreciate happy ones, but that knowledge doesn’t always make those tough times easier to bear.  What did make a difference in my life in 2015 was all of you.

Through this blog and the Disney Exchange Podcast, on twitter, Facebook, and Instagram – you and I have formed friendships.  In many cases, we’ve shared life’s challenges and successes and cheered and supported each other along the way.  Our common interests brought us together and the kindness of the Disney fan community is humbling and amazing.

Living a Disney Life – 2015

In February, I ran in my first three runDisney events and you were there via social media with words of encouragement.  From the Frozen 5k (very appropriately named as the weather was certainly freezing) to the Enchanted 10k and the Princess Half Marathon…I shared my view along the way tweeting pictures as I ran and your responses kept me going when I got tired.  Thanks for that!Princess-Half-Main-Street

In June, family tragedy struck.  Just before The Fam and I sailed through the fjords of Norway on the Disney Magic, I lost my mom after a long battle with Alzheimer’s.  This blog would have gone dark for weeks if not for my Disney friends’ help.  Mike and Gary from the Por Favor Podcast, Keith and Sean from Enchanted Tiki Talk, Andrew from The Mouse for Less, Curt from Geekin’ on WDW, and of course Nick and Barbie from Disney Musings all provided entertaining and informational Disney articles for your reading pleasure.  They also offered me kind words of friendship and support during a difficult time in my life.  That meant more than I can say.Mount-Floyen-Selfie

In September, Raymond walked Megan down the aisle and suddenly our little Princess became a grown-up married woman and our family of four became five.  The entire pixie-dusted wedding was as perfectly perfect in every way as any of our imaginations could have dreamed up.  We are as proud to call Grant our son as Joseph is to call him brother.  After a honeymoon at Walt Disney World, the newlyweds have settled well into their new life together.  Thank you for all the well-wishes and kind words during that time.Father-Daughter-Wedding

The year is coming to a close – Many months ago, Raymond and I decided that we couldn’t let 2015 end without one last visit to our favorite vacation destination.  In a year packed with hellos and goodbyes, we consider ourselves blessed with the very best family and friends any two people could ever wish for.  Thank you from the bottom of our hearts!  We love you guys!  We’ll be back with more Disney adventures in 2016 and we hope you’ll be along with us again!  Wishing you a very Happy New Year – LisaDCL Norway Raymond and Lisa

Walt Disney World 2016 – 6 Things I’ll Miss

Change happens all the time.  While some changes are welcome (bring on Pandora in Animal Kingdom and Star Wars in the Studios!), others take some time to get used to. There have been (or will soon be) a few changes that will leave noticeable holes in our future vacations…

Walt Disney World 2016 – 6 Things I’ll Miss

The Roasted Pork Shank at Gaston’s Tavern – My beloved pork shank is gone!  Somewhere near the end of October it disappeared from the menu at Gaston’s and beef stew took its place. Based on everything I’ve read, the pork shank’s absence is permanent.  I love the area around Gaston’s Tavern, but gone is my reason for entering the restaurant itself.  I’m sure I’m better off without the fat and calories, but that sure was one delicious hunk of meaty goodness.RM-Gaston's-Pork-Shank-and-Lefou's-Brew

Breakfast at Sunshine Seasons (discontinued beginning in January 2016) – It was a thing…you know, a vacation tradition!  Soarin’ early in the morning with a stop for breakfast at Sunshine Seasons afterwards.  Raymond and I always split a breakfast sandwich and potatoes with a chocolate croissant for dessert.  We’ve never eaten at Sunshine Seasons for any meal except breakfast – maybe it’s time to give lunch a try.Sunshine Seasons Breakfast

Osborne Family Spectacle of Dancing Lights (Ending after the 2015 holiday season) – It’s hard to see anything go that had a successful 20-year run.  The lights were part of many families’ Christmas traditions and will most definitely leave a gap.  There’s no doubt that new and exciting things are in store for us in the Studios’ future.  Maybe the lights will return in a different venue?  I hope so.

Soarin’, The Original – While we can still see the original Soarin’ through January 3rd, I’m counting it among the losses for this year.  I’m going to say goodbye and I’m going to be enormously sad.  This ride has been one of my favorites since it opened and I’ve got those silly emotional attachments to it fueled by happy memories of many, many family vacations that involved Epcot rope-dropping and bee-lining for the Land.Soarin's Patrick

World Showcase Entertainment – In September of 2014, Epcot lost several acts at once (Off Kilter, Mo’Rockin, World Showcase Players, and the Spirit of America Fife & Drum Corps).  I’m pointing this out, not because they were individually near and dear to my heart, but because I would expect discontinued acts to be replaced with new ones of equal quality.  Such was not the case!  In fact, as of November 24th, 2015 the Canada Pavilion’s Lumberjack show, just a year old, ended for good.  This show was never well-received by the general public and personally I did not care for the act’s county-fair-ish-ness.  This is Walt Disney World!  Much of World Showcase’s charm has always been based on the availability of a variety of quality live performances.  I’m hoping for a return to the days of fun acts and great music!

Duffy!  He no longer appears for a meet-and-greet in Epcot.  Yes, I have referred to him as the “Domestic Dispute Named Duffy”, but as an inside joke in our family, he was priceless!  He might be controversial (like a Kardashian, he’s famous for being famous) but he was one of the cutest and funniest characters we’d ever interacted with.  The kids won’t miss him a bit, but Raymond and I will remember him fondly.RM-Duffy

What about you?  What will you miss the most at Walt Disney World next year?  The Sorcerer’s Hat?  Star Wars Weekends?  Something completely different?  Shout it out now – you’ll feel better.

 

WDW – Stop Being Surprised

This post is really more a reminder to myself (and those of you who will identify with my predicament) than an admonition to the world at large.  When it comes to Walt Disney World, I’ve gotten used to certain things being part and parcel of vacationing there – Price increases, stroller collisions with my legs, folks that try to squeeze their kids in front of me to see a parade, and having my view of Wishes blocked by either a woman filming the show by holding her iPad over her head or a really tall guy with his 8-year-old on his shoulders.  These things, while irritating, are expected – I’m used to them.RM-Walkers-Walt-Disney-World

Today I’m trying to figure out why other things still surprise me after all this time.  When you get to the bottom of this list of things that I can’t get used to, please let me know – is it just me?  Or do some of these still catch you off-guard from time to time.

Memo to Me:  WDW – Stop Being Surprised

  1. Personal Space-Invaders – Probably I’m a little quirky since my personal zone tends to be fairly large unless I know you (and like you).  It never ceases to amaze me how close complete strangers will come to rest near me.  Touching me.  Sweating.  Ugh.Walt Disney World Summer Crowd
  2. Litterbugs – Seriously!  Why I’m shocked by them, I have no idea.  There must be hundreds of Cast Members who count on these trash slingers for job security.  I want to run up to them so badly and say (in my best Southern accent), “Bless your heart!  You were raised by folks who couldn’t afford a trash receptacle!  Please, let me show you how to use one!”Walt Disney World Crowds During Star Wars Weekend
  3. Unsupervised Children – True story:  Raymond and I decide to take a break at Animal Kingdom one afternoon by grabbing a cocktail at the Dawa Bar and listening to the fantastic sounds of the Burudika band.  We found seats at the bar, ordered our drinks, and just when I should have been soaking up the incredible atmosphere and enjoying a quiet moment with my favorite fella…I saw this little girl carefully studying some of the gorgeous plants in the landscaping.  RM-DAK-Dawa-Bar-AreaShe caught my attention because she was young and alone.  Like maybe seven years old.  I studied all the nearby adults trying to determine who she was with and nobody but me was paying any attention to her as she began tearing and stripping leaves off of a big, beautiful tropical plant.  I was outraged!  Surely her parents would notice and put a stop to the destruction.  Never happened.  These unattended children are everywhere – I don’t get it!  Where are their parents?  See?  I’m shocked every time!!!
  4. Pickpockets (or Pick-strollers) – I know there are thieves everywhere, even at Disney World.  That’s not actually what surprises me.  It’s the people who are so completely trusting and unconcerned that they leave valuables in their parked strollers and leave their packages, purses, and backpacks unattended.  Then, after not one tiny bit of caution was taken, these people act the outraged victims.  Caution and common sense somehow get left at home.  That’s what shocks me every time.Nighttime in the Magic Kingdome at WDW
  5. “Only-Guest” Syndrome – I get that they paid a small fortune to vacation at Walt Disney World.  I get that the lines are long, the Florida sun is hot, the theaters are crowded, the choice views are hard to secure – somehow this translates into some very ugly behavior!  Line cutting, loud talking, flash photography on dark rides, NOT moving to the end of the row, but sitting in the middle, berating Cast Members over things beyond their control.  I recently saw a photo posted on a Facebook group of a mature “gentleman” sitting in Bay Lake Tower’s Top of the World Lounge with his bare feet upon the table.  It’s beyond my comprehension how oblivious this particular kind of guest can be.

I know!  I need to get over it and do a better job of going with the flow so I stop being surprised by this negative stuff!  Luckily, I’m still delighted and surprised when pixie dust finds me, when Cast Members take a few minutes to chat and share their vast Disney knowledge, when an unexpected Character meeting happens, when I spy a Hidden Mickey, or when I find a special pin or souvenir to take home.  What things still surprise you on vacation at Walt Disney World?